What to Look for in a Counsellor

Finding the right counsellor is an important step in your journey towards improved mental health and wellbeing. At Kōwhai Therapeutic Services (KTS), we understand that everyone’s needs are unique, which is why our initial consultation is designed to help us understand what you’re looking for. We aim to make a recommendation, but it’s equally important for you to think about what you need from a counsellor.

What to Consider When Choosing a Counsellor:

1. The Therapeutic Relationship: The relationship between you and your counsellor is crucial for building trust. Trust is the foundation that allows you to feel safe, open up, and explore challenging emotions. You might want to reflect on the following questions:

   • Are you looking for a counsellor who primarily listens, someone who is more solution-focused, or a counsellor who can guide you through unpacking past trauma?

   • Do you prefer a gentle approach, or would you benefit from someone who challenges your perspectives more directly?

     
     

2. Personal Comfort: Feeling comfortable with your counsellor can make a big difference. Reflect on what might make you feel more at ease:

   • Do you have preferences regarding age, gender, or cultural background? For instance, some people may feel more comfortable with a counsellor closer to their age, while others may prefer someone older or younger.

   • Cultural understanding is also important. You might feel better understood by a counsellor who shares or is familiar with your cultural background or experiences.

     
     

3. Trusting Your Instincts: If something doesn’t feel right, don’t ignore it. It’s okay if you feel that the relationship isn’t clicking, and it’s important to share that. Counsellors understand that not every match is perfect, and more often than not, they’ll be feeling the same way if things aren’t aligning. At KTS, we prioritise getting you the support you need, even if that means helping you find someone who is a better fit. Remember, a strong therapeutic relationship often outweighs years of experience—if there’s no connection, even the most experienced counsellor might not be the right one for you.

   
   

At KTS, we have a number of counsellors with diverse strengths and specialisations. Take a look at our counsellors’ bios to see if someone resonates with what you’re looking for.